Most family law disputes are resolved by settlement, not trial, and most settlements are achieved by negotiation. Negotiation involves exchanging proposals, attempting to reach mutually agreeable terms, and, if successful, formalizing the negotiated settlement in a signed agreement that a court can approve.

Divorce negotiations can take many forms, such as:

  • “Kitchen table” negotiations, in which you and your spouse or co-parent discuss settlement terms between yourselves without attorneys present (but for which you may prepare with an attorney in advance)
  • Attorney-to-attorney divorce negotiations, in which you and the other party are represented by attorneys who negotiate on your behalf
  • Four-way negotiations, at which you, the other party and your attorneys are present and negotiate in person
  • A combination of these

The best way to negotiate depends on your circumstances, but in most cases, it is better to reach a negotiated settlement than to take your dispute to trial.

Advantages of a Negotiated Settlement

Preparing for trial takes many hours and lots of effort, so the earlier in your case you can reach a negotiated settlement, the lower your legal bills are likely to be. That is a big advantage, but it’s not even the most important one.

When a judge decides your case, their order dictates how you and your family will live your life after the case is over. When you reach a settlement through divorce negotiations, you have more control. Settlement is the most customizable way to resolve your family legal matter because you are not limited the way a court is when deciding a litigated case. Negotiation gives your family a voice in and control over the outcome, and allows for creative problem solving for your unique needs. When you have input into the terms of your divorce or family law resolution, you’re also more likely to abide by those terms—which means you’re less likely to have to come back to court.

Divorce negotiations can be challenging, but they are usually less stressful than a trial, which is another benefit. If you have children with your spouse, this means less stress for them, too. An experienced attorney makes the negotiation process easier.

Work with a Skilled Maryland Negotiation Attorney

I am a life changes attorney, and have been helping my clients navigate important life transitions like divorce and custody disputes for over 20 years. I will work together with you to:

  • Identify your goals, needs, concerns, and priorities
  • Develop a customized negotiation plan and strategy
  • Create and make, or analyze and strategically respond to, settlement proposals
  • Review and revise or draft negotiated settlement agreements

Because most family legal matters settle, they call for skilled negotiation planning and services. But even though you may not have to go to court, it is still important to work with a negotiation attorney who is also a seasoned litigator. The reason is simple: an attorney who is comfortable advocating for you in court will not encourage you to accept a settlement that’s not in your best interest simply to avoid a trial.

To learn more about divorce negotiations in Maryland and how to reach a negotiated settlement that works for you, check out my blog or contact me to schedule a consultation.